How Confidence Creates Success

[blur]I think there’s a level of respect that is lacking in today’s society. Success is not just defined by how much money a person has in their bank account or the assets they own, but also by how respected they are and even exalted in their industry.

If you have self-confidence and self-worth, then you respect yourself first and you know how to articulate conversations or negotiations respectfully with others.  

By intuition, you know how to deal with certain situations, and perhaps most importantly, you’re willing to speak your truth and not let others influence you to believe what is not in your hearts of hearts.

I have done my best to embody this throughout my career as a business owner. I am known (and I pride myself on being known) as straight forward and outspoken. I tell it like it is, but I always do so with respect.

As a woman in a man’s world – as a CEO of my own company and as a speaker who’s an Asian female – I have to stand out from the crowd. In both business and the speaking world, there are many more males than females (men still outnumber women 2-to-1 as business owners and as speakers at conferences, according to Small Biz Trends and Bloomberg News).

Because I am petite and shorter in stature, I have to use my actions and my words to prove my power.

Through my body language, my facial expressions, and my energy, I convey how comfortable I am being myself. When people feel that confidence, not arrogance, they smell competency and experience trust in the relationship. Another ingredient in this recipe for success is integrity, meaning you follow through with what you said you would do. You show up and you’re on time.

When you exhibit these characteristics of confidence, you gain the trust of others and build your rapport with people who may become a business partner, a joint venture partner, a client, and even a friend.

This is how I have built my businesses and this is how I have found success in what I do. I have increased my relationship capital tenfold in a mere 2.5 years. I operate from a place of respect and I get it in return.

Recently when I was a guest on a podcast, the interviewer mentioned that after having read my biography, she was surprised to learn that the woman behind those achievements is so humble. My reply was matter of fact: “It is because I know I can learn from every single person I come across.”

What’s more, I never judge people. Instead, I find it fascinating that people have different views and backgrounds. This is why I’m a student of the world.

Confidence, respect, and integrity will take you to the top![/blur]